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Why is there a Chinese restaurant in every Hood In America?
Did the word get out in China to go straight to the hood and open a restaurant. They don’t usually live in the hood and most of the time they hate their customers and treat them like crap (even the polite ones), yet you can find one in every hood in America. What’s the deal? Whats the connection between Chinese restaurants and "the Hood"?
First off allow me to share with you that I am 3rd generation Chinese. Secondly, on behalf of the Chinese population I’d like to apologize for the small mindedness of the Chinese individuals who were rude to you. Not all Chinese are that way, just as it is in all different races in the worl.d
The Chinese went wherever they could survive. They probably couldn’t afford an expensive place to set up their restaurant or take out business. Since alot of people who run these restaurants sometimes only speak limited English, they do what they can to make a living, such as cook Chinese food. They set up restaurants wherever they think there will be alot of customers.
I understand where you’re coming from, but if you could, (be the bigger person), & just for a moment try to see their lives thru their eyes. I know I’m asking alot, since you mentioned that they didn’t treat you very well. I can honestly share with you that older Chinese from mainland China hardly ever are overly polite. Many are even abrupt towards me because I don’t speak Chinese fluently.
You see, I’m 3rd generation Chinese & many times they are rude towards me, too. Try not to look down upon them, as they are probably are just doing the best they can to survive. They normally work 12+ hrs. per day, and 7 days a week, just to make ends meet. You noticed that the food is very reasonable, so you know that they aren’t making $$$ like the fancy upscale stuck up rich folk’s area, right?
You see I grew up in Berkeley, California where my friends were whoever were nice people. They were Black, White, Indian, & even a few Asians. I used to work at this old McDonald’s on Gilman Street in Berkeley & worked the grill, fries, register, whatever & was making $1.10 per hour with McDonald’s taking our $.10 per hour for my meals & drinks for lunch or dinner. This was in 1972. Yeah, I’m an old lady,….yeah…yeah….. : )
Back to your question……
They might appear rude by American standards, but some are First generation (the ones who just came off the boat from China) and are used to having to push & shove their way in China to even survive. So, please try not to take their rudeness personally as they act that way to everyone. It’s all they know. If, or when you become a regular & show them your politeness & respect, you will eventually lwear them with your politeness. They will have no choice but to respond positively towards you in a friendly manner. Hey, they can’t possibly keep that gruff exterior going on, if you keep being the bigger man & keep treating them politely, right?
Their gruff exterior is a way of protecting themselves from people being mean towards them like in the old days. Alot of Chinese who work in the food industry are sometimes people who just came over from China, so they are not comfortable yet. If they act rude towards people, it might be, because they are extremely tired from working or possibly haven’t reached the point of letting down their guard to show their softer side yet. Most of them work 12 hr. days – 7 days a week so they probably are extremely tired & grouchy. (Wages are extremely low as you see how reasonable their prices are, right?)
It’s just like every minority that came to America. People who are in an unfamiliar land tend to keep to themselves & their own nationality, as it is comfortable & they don’t have to risk being rejected.
I’m sure when you show them your good manners through the "please" as you place your order & the "thank you" as you receive the order, you will eventually win them over with your kindness & ability to "take the high road", & good manners.
Hopefully, as you consistently treat them with good manners & respect, they will eventually feel ashamed of not responding positively back towards you & eventually showing you respect back and one day, they will surprise you by showing that you’ve won them over.
The workers who have just arrived in the USA & the elderly ones are the most difficult to change or have an impact on. Well, in the Chinese culture, it is customary to "Respect your Elders." My grandparents & sometimes my parents suffered inequities due to people being prejudice. At times even now, I will be subjected to people’s prejudice.
Try doing the following at that take out place, ok? When you place you order, add a "please" at the end of your sentence when you order and also add a "Thank you" with a slight nod when you receive your order. Also, if you stand up straight & ensure your clothing is neat such as shirt-tails tucked in, it forms a better impression of respect. If you have that style of your jean pants hanging down so your briefs are slightly showing (like my youngest daughter does—which by the way I absolutely hate), then you might want to hike them up so that your briefs are visible, at least until after you leave their restaurant/take out place. Try it for a month and see what happens, ok? Wha
7 Responses to “Why is there a Chinese restaurant in every Hood In America?”
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November 21st, 2009
Posted by admin in chinese restaurant | 7 Comments »
Heroin maybe?
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Cheap rent.
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doubt there is one in every "hood"
but there are a lot… my city has more chinease restaurants than any other except for fast food… mostly because the average american thinks its good tasting and a little more exotic, so they will pay more for it.
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if there is demand for it, then they go. if no one goes there, they would close. so why do the homies go?
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First off allow me to share with you that I am 3rd generation Chinese. Secondly, on behalf of the Chinese population I’d like to apologize for the small mindedness of the Chinese individuals who were rude to you. Not all Chinese are that way, just as it is in all different races in the worl.d
The Chinese went wherever they could survive. They probably couldn’t afford an expensive place to set up their restaurant or take out business. Since alot of people who run these restaurants sometimes only speak limited English, they do what they can to make a living, such as cook Chinese food. They set up restaurants wherever they think there will be alot of customers.
I understand where you’re coming from, but if you could, (be the bigger person), & just for a moment try to see their lives thru their eyes. I know I’m asking alot, since you mentioned that they didn’t treat you very well. I can honestly share with you that older Chinese from mainland China hardly ever are overly polite. Many are even abrupt towards me because I don’t speak Chinese fluently.
You see, I’m 3rd generation Chinese & many times they are rude towards me, too. Try not to look down upon them, as they are probably are just doing the best they can to survive. They normally work 12+ hrs. per day, and 7 days a week, just to make ends meet. You noticed that the food is very reasonable, so you know that they aren’t making $$$ like the fancy upscale stuck up rich folk’s area, right?
You see I grew up in Berkeley, California where my friends were whoever were nice people. They were Black, White, Indian, & even a few Asians. I used to work at this old McDonald’s on Gilman Street in Berkeley & worked the grill, fries, register, whatever & was making $1.10 per hour with McDonald’s taking our $.10 per hour for my meals & drinks for lunch or dinner. This was in 1972. Yeah, I’m an old lady,….yeah…yeah….. : )
Back to your question……
They might appear rude by American standards, but some are First generation (the ones who just came off the boat from China) and are used to having to push & shove their way in China to even survive. So, please try not to take their rudeness personally as they act that way to everyone. It’s all they know. If, or when you become a regular & show them your politeness & respect, you will eventually lwear them with your politeness. They will have no choice but to respond positively towards you in a friendly manner. Hey, they can’t possibly keep that gruff exterior going on, if you keep being the bigger man & keep treating them politely, right?
Their gruff exterior is a way of protecting themselves from people being mean towards them like in the old days. Alot of Chinese who work in the food industry are sometimes people who just came over from China, so they are not comfortable yet. If they act rude towards people, it might be, because they are extremely tired from working or possibly haven’t reached the point of letting down their guard to show their softer side yet. Most of them work 12 hr. days – 7 days a week so they probably are extremely tired & grouchy. (Wages are extremely low as you see how reasonable their prices are, right?)
It’s just like every minority that came to America. People who are in an unfamiliar land tend to keep to themselves & their own nationality, as it is comfortable & they don’t have to risk being rejected.
I’m sure when you show them your good manners through the "please" as you place your order & the "thank you" as you receive the order, you will eventually win them over with your kindness & ability to "take the high road", & good manners.
Hopefully, as you consistently treat them with good manners & respect, they will eventually feel ashamed of not responding positively back towards you & eventually showing you respect back and one day, they will surprise you by showing that you’ve won them over.
The workers who have just arrived in the USA & the elderly ones are the most difficult to change or have an impact on. Well, in the Chinese culture, it is customary to "Respect your Elders." My grandparents & sometimes my parents suffered inequities due to people being prejudice. At times even now, I will be subjected to people’s prejudice.
Try doing the following at that take out place, ok? When you place you order, add a "please" at the end of your sentence when you order and also add a "Thank you" with a slight nod when you receive your order. Also, if you stand up straight & ensure your clothing is neat such as shirt-tails tucked in, it forms a better impression of respect. If you have that style of your jean pants hanging down so your briefs are slightly showing (like my youngest daughter does—which by the way I absolutely hate), then you might want to hike them up so that your briefs are visible, at least until after you leave their restaurant/take out place. Try it for a month and see what happens, ok? Wha
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i have two Chinese restaurant a half a block from me .there money there
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RICE. U heard it take money to make money. If u don’t understand, i can’t help u
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